Parenting is not about control. It is about communication and listening to your instincts. It is about owning what you know.
Many parents I see are loving, caring adults who read every book under-the-sun and are left confused. Books can be a useful resource, but there is a point at which you have to choose what knowledge to apply and what to ignore. A good rule of thumb is – if it feels right, it is probably the best thing to do. Once you decide what information to accept, embrace your knowledge, own it, and apply it with confidence.
In my experience, parents think reading lots of books will enable them to control the situation. What they don’t realize is that each bub is individual and the text book may not apply. They also don’t realize that their emotions will greatly affect their judgement and behaviour. Learning to understand your baby/child is two parts listening and one part response. It is about STOPPING – taking a moment to observe the situation, ASSESSING – deciding the best approach to take and ACTING – correct the situation (if necessary).
The human race has survived due to our instincts, learn to listen and trust yours.
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